My Responses to the Men’s Journal Exit Interview
I was reading this month's "Exit Interview" in Men's Journal featuring Tim Robbins and thought I would answer the questions they posed to him:
What adventure most changed your life?
I'd have to say it was my honeymoon. I wanted to go somewhere a little out of the ordinary. It had to be a island, but not touristy. So, we settled on this little island in the Bahamas called Elbow Cay. We stayed at this great B&B on the island. The neat thing was that there were no cars allowed and only two telephones on the island. It was the first time in my life that I was really incommunicado and I loved it - but it took me about four days to settle into it. And, it took my wife a little longer. The interesting thing was when we flew back and laid over in Miami. After being away from the world for 10 days and walking back into that airport, you could just feel the tension and bad vibes in the place.
What skill should every man have?
Every man needs to know how to be an interpreter. There are so many things we deal with on a daily basis that require interpretation. What did the wife really say? What does my client really need versus what they want? What did my son mean by that? Why is that guy looking at me that way? Stuff like that.
Do you have a scar that tells a story?
Yes, there is a scar that runs from my mid forehead down my nose and under my right eye. My dad bought a ski boat right after I got out of high school. About 4-5 weeks after we bought it, the dealer came up to our house for a check-out ride - just to make sure everything was running properly. So, we went out skiing on this reservoir in Utah where I was living at the time. After skiing for a while, we were driving around and I sat up on the motor cover in the center of the boat. We'll then we hit the sandbar doing about 30-35 mph. I flew forward and hit the windshield bracing after stopping dead cold. 200 stitches later - there's my scar.
I Can’t Believe This Was Five Years Ago – Today!
Happy Birthday to my little buddy.
I had no idea how life would change - but more importantly, how fast it would go.
In this picture he is about 15 minutes old. And, these last five years have been filled with so much. As much as I try and be the best Dad I can - this little guy has given back so much. His capacity for empathy, compassion and joy are WAY more than me.
It's really amazing what he teaches me about being a better person and how he has grown into that without my influence. He was just born that way.
I'm thankful everyday that he is with us and part of our family. And, I can't wait for many, many more birthdays with him.
Understanding This Financial Mess
I have had a number of conversations over the last week trying to understand this mess our economy is in. There are a number of theories, ideas and everything in between floating around out there. I don't begin to understand the totality of it - but I do understand some of the fundamentals.
Here's what I think I know about the situation:
- Mortgages are the root problem.
- The banking industry was selling mortgages to a lot of people who wouldn't necessarily qualify for a mortgage without some of these special loans.
- A lot of the bad mortgages causing this problem were sub-prime or mortgages whose value was below the prime rate.
- There were a number of government programs that mandated the mortgage lenders make loans to those less fortunate.
- Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac knew a bailout was possible and therefore made more risky decisions based on the premise that they would benefit from a governmental bailout.
- This problem began more years ago than anyone, especially in this political climate, will give credit.
I'm sure there is a lot more information, facts, theories and such that are out there. But, this is my simplistic view. Here's a great article by Thomas Sowell - "Bailout Politics". He has a Ph. D. in Economics from Stanford and is really, really smart. There are a number of great quotes and insight in the article.
Great Article About Getting Media Attention
Mitch Joel of TwistImage recently wrote a great blog entry called "How To Get Media Attention In One Easy Step (And It's Free)". There are some great tips in there and I thought I'd pass it along.
Here's an excerpt:
All the common rules of society still apply when contacting Journalists and Bloggers:
- Be nice.
- Be respectful of their time.
- Recognize that these are busy people too.
- Be self-aware that most of them do not like to pitched.
- Don't annoy them or hound them if you don't hear back from them.
- Say please and thank you.
- Make it easy, simple and fun to connect to you and whatever it is you're pitching them.
- Give them time and space to breathe (your rush is not their rush).
There's a bunch of other great info in the article - check it out.
Why Do We Still Give Doctors and Their Staffs a Pass on Customer Service?
I hate waiting - especially in a Doctor's office. Where else in the real world would a professional get away with not holding up an appointment? I had an appointment this morning at 8:45 and waited for at least 20 minutes before going back to sit in another room for 10 more minutes. I finally walked out of this particular chiropractor's office an hour and 15 minutes later. Completely unacceptable.
Why do we put up with this? Maybe I should send them a bill for my waiting time.
The Snowman…In Memoriam

A man that touched my life, in many ways, passed away yesterday - Jerry Reed. He was 71 and died from complications with emphysema.
I first met Jerry when I was about five or six years old in Baton Rouge. You see, my Dad was a HUGE Jerry Reed fan and we were always listening to his albums when I was a kid, so I really knew his music. Dad also did some concert promoting on the side and would bring a few of his heroes into town for shows every once in a while. And, this led to me getting to meet Jerry for the first time. He and Dad kept up over the years off and on and I was able to meet him again a few times more. More on that in a sec.
Most people don't have any idea how influential a guitar player Jerry was. Ask any guitar player in Nashville and he'll be on their top 3 list. He built a style of his own based on the finger picking techniques of Merle Travis and Chet Atkins combined with banjo techniques from Earl Scruggs. He was also a great songwriter with numerous hits for both himself and others. It's not too shabby of a career when Elvis records two of your songs!
Then we get to his movie career - where most people knew Jerry. His breakthrough role came opposite of Burt Reynolds in "Gator". He was great in that movie - catch it if you haven't seen it. And from there the world came to know "The Snowman" in "Smokey and the Bandit" for which he won a People's Choice Award for his role. He made several movies over the years after and ended up in Adam Sandler's "Waterboy" in the mid-90's and was great opposite of Fonzie.
On a personal note I got to spend a little bit of time with Jerry when the last album that he and Chet Atkins came out called "Sneakin' Around." My Dad and I went to see him in Iowa at a show and ended up having dinner with he and his wife, Prissy, after the show. But it was on the bus that afternoon that I was fortunate to be part of something that Jerry didn't do that often. He handed me his famous Baldwin guitar and asked me to play him something. I can't remember what I played, but he corrected me on a few things and then gave me a lesson and some pointers. His wife later told me that she had never seen him give a guitar lesson before. So, I was pretty excited to learn from a master.
I got to tend his guitar a few more times, once at a show for the Chet Atkins Appreciation Society in Nashville. I even wrote an instrumental on that guitar - something I still play today.
I still listen to his music and wish that all of his catalog would resurface. You can find a few albums here and there. My favorite was a live album he recorded here in Nashville at the Exit/In. There's a song on there called "I'm You Guitar" that is a masterpiece and then leads into a killer version of "Guitar Man."
My hope is that he'll one day make it into the Country Music Hall of Fame where he belongs. The things he's done on stage, on screen, in the studio and in the writing room all add up to an amazing career as an entertainer. I remember seeing something a few years back that called him "The Entertainer" - very fitting.
Here's the link to his obituary at Tennessean.com: Musician, actor Jerry Reed dies at 71

